You are not logged in. Would you like to login or register?

Crying Discussion » What do you think about crying with your friends or people you like? D » March 3, 2024 5:19 pm

Lavande
Replies: 3

Go to post

Good evening to you! 
If you feel like an emotional blockage might be on the way, I think it might be useful to search what is causing this blockage. Maybe it could help you to understand it better and to be able to cry in front of someone else.
I used to restrict my tears in the past because I believed that other people didn't need to see me cry and I had no right to force my tears onto others, and I was also afraid of being bothersome, until I realized that it was just a part of myself, and that it's not something I “should control”.

The most important thing, I think, is to stay true to yourself; your emotions have the right to express themselves, if you feel the need to cry you are allowed to cry, if you don't feel the need to cry at a specific moment, don't push yourself too hard!

As mentioned above trust also is very important, I don't see crying as a weakness either, but it's definitely something very intimate about yourself, something you might not want to share with just anyone

I hope you will be able to find answers 

Crying Discussion » Discord Group » February 15, 2024 3:00 pm

Lavande
Replies: 37

Go to post

Greetings!

I don’t know if the group is still active, but may I have an invitation too, if you don’t mind having me?

Crying Discussion » The Last Time You Cried » February 13, 2024 9:13 pm

Lavande
Replies: 9

Go to post

Good evening! I hope that you are well 

I can empathize with you in a way, when you talk about loneliness, because I feel lonely and confused too; I've never felt lonelier, and I don't understand why as I'm always surrounded by so many people every day.

I thought I'd say that the last time I really cried until my head hurt was yesterday, at work, when I asked one of my coworker if I was good enough, but it is right now as I am replying to your post. I feel that the combination of too many things is weighing me down, creating an explosive pressure that I am no longer able to maintain or control.

I am so afraid of being a burden and sharing my pain with others that I've ended up refraining and preventing myself from accepting and receiving genuine comfort from them; I am so afraid of bothering people through my own melancholy and fragility that I refuse to let anyone hold me or wipe my tears like I used to when I was younger. Despite how much I need it and want it.
I want to feel safe in someone's arms, I want to cry, my head wrapped against their chest, until I feel too tired to move or cry anymore.
I want to be put to sleep after crying for hours, just like when I was a child.
Realizing that I became so cruel toward myself to even allow the smallest kindness from others pains me. 
If I can reach out and touch others to comfort and reassure them, why can't I allow myself the same sympathy in return?

I thought that at least I still had my tears, that I still could allow myself to cry to relieve some of my concerns and sadness, but the tears often end up being too much and even worse; as they used to be a way to purify and dispel my pain, they slowly grow into sharp and derisive thorns. My eyes are dry and swollen and my head tingles with each new heartbeat– now I feel like my tears and crying, which used to be my escape and my comfort, have been stolen from me.

But thankfully, I do find comfort by crying through Music and Literature, and especially through si

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » February 13, 2024 2:45 pm

Lavande
Replies: 13

Go to post

Thank you both for your replies, I am sure and I hope that I feel more comfortable now! Maybe I had a lot of questions going on too, which caused me to need some time to reflect on myself.

Amans lacrimae wrote:

By the way, has your mom (who you mention is interested in tears) wiped or kissed your tears?

Given that she is my mother, yes, she has wiped my tears, we have always been very close ever since I'm a child. However, I don’t think this is related to her interest in tears and I don't think she has any interest in mine either! We talk about that sometimes but mostly about other people, and I find it curious how, although she raised me and we are very close, our interests and nature are completely different.

Crying Discussion » Traits we share » February 12, 2024 9:34 pm

Lavande
Replies: 4

Go to post

Good evening to you!

I can relate to your relationship with your writings deeply! I tend to act out and even sometimes speak out loud whenever I let a character live through my writings as well, I think it feels relieving to let them act through my body and to let go this feeling when I'm writing! And sometimes writing feels so intense that it becomes vivid, I often have trouble finding my way back to reality after that.

I am very expressive physically, and a little too much emotional, I often feel out of place, or I feel like my emotions are exaggerated or even excessive, although they are sincere and genuine to me. 
Other people's emotions are very contagious to me, so I often end up absorbing everyone's burden, especially when I'm at work and it feels overwhelming and suffocating, to the point that the silliest thing could lead me to a horrible and painful burst of tears (I once cried until exhaustion just because I dropped and ruined a pizza I was cooking for my coworkers)

One of my coworker cried not so long ago because she was stressed out, it was such a horrible and awful feeling. I changed desks to stay with her because she was on her own, and knowing she was alone was even more painful for me. She has always been a very strong and even stoic woman; I felt the bitterness in her heart, her deception and her anger to cry in front of others. Seeing her cry made me react both emotionally and physically. It caused me a lot of pain, but I'm glad she wasn't alone and I could share my own emotions and sensitivity with her. I think, I hope, it might have helped her.

I've never met someone like me yet, I can easily relate to people and yet I feel so far away from them, I don't know how to feel about it
Sometimes I'm not sure if a coworker of mine enjoys tears or not, but I think I've met someone who enjoys seeing people cry without a doubt; my mother– she has never expressed it toward me of course, but we have talked about it because I confess to her a lot, and

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » February 12, 2024 8:49 pm

Lavande
Replies: 13

Go to post

Dear all,
I didn't know if I should make a new post, but I don't think it would have been necessary. Please forgive me if this not the appropriate place.

I've been thinking of this website often, for a long time, but couldn't bring myself to come back for some reason, although I've never really been active to begin with. 
I've written and deleted this message several times, I feel foolish thinking about it so much. And I also feel like a stalker for frequently visiting this website as a guest haha
I dreamed of this website last night, which was strange, so I thought it was “sign” to come back (it's silly)

For starters, I am a little bit scared about my own intimacy with dacryphilia, and then I got worried about being a fraud; what if my interest in dacryphilia doesn't extend to “ what it is supposed to be”? I don't enjoy seeing people cry, it causes me trouble and I find it harmful for me, it only makes me cry more… but I feel liberation and even purgation when I cry, and I think I might cry a little too often compared to most people.
On another note, I also do love the intimacy between someone who cries and someone who watches. 

I felt quite overwhelmed by this feeling of being a fraud and was afraid of being a disappointment, I tend to overthink too much.
Nevertheless, I believe that this place is somewhat the closest website I can find to find comfort and answers to my liking toward the word dacryphilia, and the only safe place I'll ever find to share, and maybe understand too, my relationship with tears and my high emotions. 

I hope my return isn't inconvenient and that I can find a place here in spite of the few years I've been missing. 

Looking forward to sharing and exchanging with all of you a little more..!



I'd love to take the time to reply now, and I apologize for the delay in answering your questions:

Amans lacrimae wrote:

Wow, I am surprised some strangers comforted you, did they hold you in their arms, j

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » May 1, 2021 11:33 am

Lavande
Replies: 13

Go to post

Amans lacrimae wrote:

Do you usually get comforted when you cry? Does the empathy crying happen with only one person or with more people?

I guess I am "lucky" for I, most of the time but not always, receive comfort and tenderness when I cry and even from people I barely know or don't know at all; I remember that one day in high school I burst into tears after a philosophy class and a few people I didn't know came to me and stayed with me until I got better, I felt a little guilty about wasting their time but at the same I was very glad to be surrounded by their comfort. And I felt very good, there wasn't any awkwardness from them, and I really appreciate this kind of genuine care

Crying Discussion » Short film about crying; Fragile.com by Brittany Menjivar » April 30, 2021 7:53 pm

Lavande
Replies: 1

Go to post

Greetings everyone!
I don't know if this was already posted, I hope not, please delete my topic if there is already one..! And I hope it also is related to the discussion. I thought about posting it in the "Crying videos" section but then I've realized that this discussion might be more into "sharing feelings and opinions" than sharing the video itself

I've recently discovered "dacryphilia" through this short film
https://vimeo.com/378925457
and I was wondering what do you think about it, and how does it make you feel?
Also, I was wondering what do you feel about a person crying "from their heart" and a person crying "for a role" (in the situation of the movie), and is the difference really important for you to enjoy watching someone cry, or is it more the beauty of a face covered in tears— whether it's from the heart of for a role— that you find attractive? 
Would you find the idea of people crying through livestreams interesting or do you think that would be problematic? I see crying as something personal and even a little intimate, do you think a person crying for an audience would make you lose interest in the said person? Do you prefer to see "sincere" tears, whether it's from someone you know, or even from actors in a movie? (even though actors play for an audience, I think it's different in some way, because actors often are sincere in their feelings, as they are very close to their characters)

as for my own opinion about it, I've find the movie very touching and even heart-breaking, it's the fact that you give up all your "pure" and "true" feelings for an audience, for fame, that moves me and touches me a lot
and I also think that I might be unconsciously afraid of never being able to cry again because of crying too much, which leads me to another question..! Do you ever feel scared of not being able to cry again?

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » April 30, 2021 7:26 pm

Lavande
Replies: 13

Go to post

Thank you very much for your answers,  

truffle wrote:

Do you cry while writing, and do you continue to write even though you’re crying?

I occasionally cry while writing and either I keep writing or I have to stop because it's too much and I need to take a little break


NeedHerSobs wrote:

How does the feeling of being comforted while you're in such a state affect you?

It affects me in both a good and a "bad" way, a good way because it feels good being comforted by someone, and it's reassuring, warm and relieving, like you can allow yourself to share your thoughts, and I see crying as a very intimate thing. But it also makes me feel a little bad because the person comforting me always ends up crying too, and I think it's both reassuring to have someone to cry with but it's also a little "hard", because I know this person wouldn't be crying if I wasn't, I don't know if it makes sense

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » April 30, 2021 4:46 pm

Lavande
Replies: 13

Go to post

Sex: Female

Orientation: I don't know, I'm having a really hard time finding out my own sexual orientation 

Age: 22

Location: Europe (France)

Interested in:
I'm not really "interested" in people crying themselves, or at least, it hurts me to see someone cry more than anything. I just want to comfort them, seeing someone cry is a very painful feeling for me. But crying is very important for me, and I'd even say "vital". I need to cry. So I guess I can say that I might be interested in how much I can hurt myself mentally while crying, maybe it can be considered as some form of emotional masochism, I'm sorry if this is not appropriate. I often feel like my only way— or most "active" way— of expressing myself is through crying

Interest in the forum:
I've recently discovered the word "dacryphilia" while watching a short movie and I've immediately felt the need to discover more about it, as it interests me a lot. I've discovered this forum and I was a little scared about joining it, but why not trying it? 
I'm interested in discussions about dacryphilia, discovering more about this fetish, sharing, and I hope I'll be able to find what I'm looking for and find a little place here, I can't bring the subject to my friends, I'm afraid they'll find it weird

Your own crying :
It totally depends, I cry easily and for almost anything, and I'm very expressive— from silent tears to desperate screams. Most of the time, I can't control the shakings, my face "marked" when I cry; I have a sensitive skin and red marks appear on my cheeks, near my eyes, almost like when a baby cries. My lips curl and tremble as much as my body does and get "bigger". I try not to cry in front of people even though I'm uncapable of controlling my tears. I don't want to make people sad through my own suffering, but at the same time I really want to be comforted, and I've also discovered that I've always been longing for someone who would "[i]fal

Board footera

 

Powered by Boardhost. Create a Free Forum