So, I don't know if this post is really going to have a point, but sometimes I really like to think about what it would be like if people like us could network. Like, if those of us who liked to comfort could network with people who liked to be the crier, or if those of us who liked to comfort could network with people who feel alone and need someone to open up to.  Not network in a dating site way or, really, anything actually sexual, just put ourselves out there for emotionally lonely people to be able to contact, meet up, and just open up/cry to us for a while. I don't know how something like that could actually work, since there don't seem to be very many of us in the world and most people would probably think we were weird, but it seems like a relatively beneficial experience for both sides. Come join my daydream brainstorm! lol

So, I know we had a thread a little while ago talking about how we would feel about having sex with our partners while they were crying and how difficult it would be to achieve that kind of scenario without hurting our s/o.  Well, I was reminded of this the other weekend.  

I went camping with the boyfriend, and we had our own tent, but we were camping in a group of ~100 people, so there was very little true privacy.  One of the nights, we were possibly the last people to go to bed (we had left the campsite to make a pilgrimage to buy something at like 3AM and came back to silence), and we ended up having sex before we fell asleep.  We can be pretty quiet when we want to be, but at one point, the boyfriend started gasping.  When this happened, he buried his face in my shoulder/neck, presumably to muffle the noise.  However, it was the exact way people bury their faces in you when they're crying, and the way he was breathing felt and sounded almost exactly like voiceless sobs.  It felt so much like he was crying into my shoulder, and even though I still knew realistically that he wasn't, it had a lot of the same elements that make crying so endearing: he was some kind of vulnerable, and he was taking shelter in me to hide something that he would be embarrassed for others to notice.  It was just a really special little thing for me, and I gently held the back of his head with one hand the way I would have had he been crying.  

Anyway, it struck me that little things like this that are strongly reminiscent of crying are probably the closest I'm ever going to get to having sex while he's crying, so I was wondering if any of you have had moments like this, and if so, what happened to remind you of crying?

Goodness, so many questions!

I didn't really get to see his face that well while he was sobbing.  He had calmed down a bit more during the parts where he was actually looking at me, and would bend over and make his face less directly visible when he was sobbing.

This was not the first time I'd seen him cry.  I believe it was the eighth (if you count the first mini-ob above as number 7).  It was definitely the time that I was the most able to comfort him, though.  It was just the right situation and I was the right person at the time.  I could write a chronology, if you guys want, but you've already read the best part lol

For the most part, he wiped his face when it was actually visible to me.  His eyes were definitely filling up with tears again when we were in the kitchen, but he didn't react to that fact any more than the rest of it.  He initiated the long hug before he could completely lose it again, and I think it helped him regain control and probably hide his face while he dealt with the potential new tears issue.

He does seem to be doing a bit better with that particular issue.  He's still got a lot of things going on, but such is life, unfortunately.

Thanks so much for all your positive feedback!  I haven't been able to get on in a while because I currently don't have internet at my house, but it was a great thing to stumble into when I finally made it back.  

Gosh, the first one sounds like heaven.  I totally understand where you're coming from with the nerves in the second one, though.  I've definitely backed down from a couple comforting opportunities due to that, myself.  I think it does depend on the person and what kind of relationship dynamics you have with them.  If I feel either incredibly close with them or if I feel like the "in-charge" one in the relationship (I've had a couple friends in the past who would come to me and open up to me a lot; on the few occasions when I came across one of them crying, I felt braver about putting my arms around them than I would have with someone who tried not to be seen as weak).