Heyy, so I'm curious what people think is the sort of "best" thing to say while comforting someone?

Whenever I picture myself comforting someone, I'm always sort of saying either "shhh, shh" or "it's ok, it's ok" but I remember seeing somewhere here that people think those aren't a good idea? 

In my mind the actual words/sounds matter less than the tone and the fact that they're sort of "slow" sounding somehow, calming the person, but I want actual ideas of what to say as well!  


 

Recently, I had a friend tell me that if he were crying, I would be the one he would talk to! It was the nicest thing and it sort of came out of nowhere. I do have to say, I do kind of have the rep with all of the people i know as the "kind and caring one" and people know I am very huggy and I don't mind listening to their problems.

I just wanted to share this with someone, and you all are the only ones who would appreciate it. 

That movie is one of my favorites and always has been, but for some reason it wasn't until very recently that I registered the crying scenes.

Meet Me in St. Louis (another one of my favorites) has a lot of female crying.

I'm so so so sorry . I can't even imagine how hard it must be. I second what everyone else has said.

I vote yes, mostly because I don't see why it would be members only and didn't realize it was, haha.